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It’s Not Always About Passion — Sometimes, It’s About Comfort
When people think about affairs, they often picture a woman falling for a mysterious stranger — a spontaneous, passionate encounter that seems to come out of nowhere. But the reality is far less dramatic. Most women who cheat don’t seek out strangers at all.
Instead, they turn to someone they already know.
A close friend. A co-worker. A neighbor. Even an old flame from the past.
It’s not a coincidence. Women who stray often do so with men who have already been part of their lives. But why? Why not chase something entirely new? The answer lies in the complex nature of emotional intimacy, trust, and the gradual erosion of connection in long-term relationships.
Let’s explore why women are drawn toward familiar faces when stepping outside their primary relationships.
1. Emotional Connection Feels Safer with Someone They Know
For many women, an affair isn’t just about sex — it’s about emotional fulfillment. Unlike men, who may compartmentalize physical and emotional intimacy, women often feel the two are deeply connected.
