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Unlocking Desire: Why You Need to Ask Your Spouse About Their Fantasies — Today
The Conversation That Could Change Everything
Let’s Talk About Sex
A friend of mine recently shared something surprising. After eight years of marriage, he finally asked his wife about her sexual fantasies.
Eight years!
I couldn’t help but wonder:
- Why wait so long?
- What made it suddenly feel easy?
- How did she react?
His story made me reflect on my own past. I was married for 20 years, and in all that time, we barely scratched the surface of exploring fantasies. We tried — once. It was in our early twenties, and we invited a friend to join us while my husband watched. The experience didn’t go as planned, and instead of discussing it, we shoved the conversation into a dark, locked box.
Looking back, I realize how much we missed out on.
So, let me ask you: Have you ever asked your spouse about their fantasies?
If not, why?
It’s time to talk about why we hold back, what we’re missing, and how one conversation can unlock a new level of intimacy.
