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Why Your Sex Life is Nobody’s Business (Except Yours)
Once upon a time, virginity was a golden ticket to being considered “pure.” Fast forward to today, and the conversation has simply flipped — some people now treat “staying a virgin” like a flex, while others race to “get rid of it” as soon as possible.
But here’s the truth no one tells you: Virginity is a lie.
Not in the Santa Claus isn’t real kind of way. More like a deeply ingrained, socially constructed, completely arbitrary concept that has controlled women (and men) for centuries.
And guess what? It’s still happening.
Whether it’s TikTok influencers preaching celibacy or YouTube “alpha males” shaming women for their “body count,” the message remains the same: your worth is tied to what you do — or don’t do — in bed.
Spoiler alert: it’s not.
What the Hell is Virginity, Anyway?
Let’s break it down.
For centuries, virginity has been marketed as this sacred, mystical thing that defines a person’s morality, value, and respectability.
But there’s a problem…
