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90% of Men Want This in Bed: The Simple Secret to Unlocking His Desires

Alisa
6 min readJan 31, 2025

You Don’t Need Fancy Moves — Just Show Him You Desire Him Too

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What if I told you that most men don’t want the perfect pose or the most seductive lingerie? Instead, 90% of men in studies reveal that they are far more excited by something simpler — and far more intimate — than you might expect. You’re probably thinking it has to be something complex, but the truth is, it’s all about how you make them feel: desired, chosen, and wanted.

The Surprising Truth: Men Want to Be Chased Too

Have you ever thought about what a man really craves when you’re in bed together? It’s not about you performing some over-the-top move you saw in a movie, and it’s definitely not about acting out some scripted fantasy. What men actually desire — what turns them on most — is showing them that you’re not just passively participating in the moment, but actively choosing them.

In a world where men are often the ones expected to take the lead, many want to feel pursued. Imagine you’re both caught in the heat of the moment, and then, without warning, you take the reins. No, it doesn’t mean becoming overly aggressive or acting out a role; it means showing him that he’s desired. Small things — a gentle pull on his shirt, a playful kiss when he least…

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Alisa
Alisa

Written by Alisa

Hi, I’m Alisa. I write about love, dating, sex, and relationships—sharing stories, insights, and advice to help navigate the complexities of human connection.

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